According to Gary Chapman’s book, The Five Love Languages, one of the primary love languages is affirmation. Simply giving the gift of words to affirm your spouse is that huge!
Even if your husband leans more towards another primary means of
communicating love, there is not a man on earth who doesn't love
praise. Oh, who am I kidding? There is not a person on earth who can’t
appreciate honest praise.
Many
times, I believe we fail to praise our husbands because we simply
forget how awesome they are. We grow accustomed to their strengths and
fail to show them just how much we admire those strengths. One of the
things I well remember about my husband was the first time we talked on
the phone. I remember thinking how much I loved the depth and tone of
his voice. Still do! But as I stated a few weeks ago, familiarity in
marriage doesn't always breed contempt- it simply breeds complacency, which can be even more dangerous.
Let’s get creative this week with ways to praise our husbands! Today I’m presenting:
APPLAUD: 7 Ways to Praise Your Husband for 7 Days
Day 1: A – Appreciate those physical
attributes that attracted you to your husband in the beginning. Maybe
it is still his biceps, or that dark hair, or those intriguing
eyes…whatever it is, take notice and tell him!
Day 2: P – Praise his character
traits that wouldn’t be visible unless he acted on them. Some ideas of
these types of characteristics are his merciful heart or grace-giving or
gentle spirit. Acknowledging the actions you adore that come from your
husband’s character will be much appreciated!
Day 3: P – Promote his position as
the leader of your home. From the time my children have been born, we
get excited when Daddy arrives home from work. No matter what time of
day, we drop everything we’re doing and greet him at the door with hugs
and kisses.
Day 4: L – “Like” your husband. And I don’t mean “like” him on Facebook. Although that’s a great idea also…
I mean like his interests enough to be able to compliment him about
them. For instance, when my husband goes for a run, upon his return, I
simply ask, “How far did you go?” And he shares his distance and
times. Then I compliment his distance or time. Simple, purposeful
conversation.
Day 5: A – Acknowledge his
accomplishments. Whether ministry or career or personal, celebrate
achievements! Add an extra date night, make a special dessert for after
dinner, or write a note simply saying how proud you are that he did it-
whatever “it” happens to be.
Day 6: U – Understand the need for
affirmation. Be sensitive to a discouraging day at work or a personal
disappointment and find a way to encourage his heart, even when you
can’t praise an accomplishment.
Day 7: D – Determine to be positive
in your conversations. Often the “sludge” of the day can get piled up
and dumped on your husband as soon as you see him at day’s end. Ease
into conversation- I’m not saying you have to hide the sludge- because
we both know he will smell it sooner or later.
But determining in advance to be optimistic about the Lord’s direction
in an area will assist you in praising your husband even through
difficult circumstances.
I hope you’ll let us know how you plan to APPLAUD your husband this week! Leave us a comment below!
Blessings,
Rache About Rachel Wojnarowski - Rachel
is originally a small town country girl who converted to a suburban
mother of seven by way of life happening. She and her husband, Matt,
enjoy caring for their busy family, whose ages span from 13 months to 21
years old, including a special needs daughter. Rachel leads community
ladies’ Bible studies in central Ohio and serves as an event planner and
speaker for special needs parenting groups. She is a member of Ohio
Writers’ Guild and the National MPS Society; and loves to inspire others
through her blog by sharing faith, family, and fun. l
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